The basic needs that are fulfilled by having a funeral are:
The emotional element. A time to face the reality of death.
A time when family and friends can provide support to one another, share memories
A funeral is an event that emphasises and acknowledges life. It is also an historical event that should be shared.
Spiritual matters need to be dealt with, coming to terms with a sudden encounter with dying, fear of death, unresolved emotional issues and acceptance that the journey has come to an end.
There is no legally prescribed format for a funeral service but that of honoring and celebrating the life of the deceased.
I will create a ceremony which reflects the deceased unique nature and the influence that he or she had on the lives of others.
The service can be held in the chapel at the Crematorium Park, the funeral director's chapel, at the graveside in the case of an interment, or any other place that you feel is appropriate for the deceased.
No-one wants to think about the sadness of losing a family member or a friend but inevitably, sooner or later, we all do.
As a funeral celebrant, my main focus is to provide the best possible service to the family and friends of the deceased. This is done by talking to the family and, with their guidance, writing and conducting a personal funeral ceremony.
One of the most difficult aspects to planning is simply knowing where to begin. There are many decisions required when arranging a funeral. I will guide you through this process, acknowledging the deep feelings that you are experiencing, but in a place you feel safe to express these feelings.
I don’t believe you ever get over the loss of a loved one, you learn to live with the loss.
On behalf of Tara, Jade, and myself I would like to thank you very much for being the person that conducted the funeral service for Marilyn yesterday.
The Eulogy was so good, actually exceptional for someone that had not met Marilyn.
A great job.
As you had not met with her parents, your sensitivity towards them met with their approval, as were very mindful of all the family when putting it together. Again many thanks for your work, but also your assistance with choreographing the whole day.
Thank you very much for helping to make Mum's funeral so very memorable. There were many comments from the family and friends on what a beautiful service it was.
I feel sure that much of what we remembered is due to the way you do things, not just what is said.
Knowing how hard it is to use words well I am in awe of your skill in listening to our stories of mum, drawing out the most important parts, then knitting them together to show her in familiar ways, as well as in new ways. It gave me much to think about.
It also showed me how important it is to collect stories about our families, to bring to life the photos we pass on to following generations.
Thank you for helping to share my mothers stories.
With our sincere thanks and best wishes,
My Dear Di,
I have been very tardy in writing this note... each time I try I have been unable to go on.
Thankyou, thankyou... for your beautiful service to Alex.
I have had so many reports on what a wonerful service it was, and to you in particular on your presentation.
I have sent a copy of the service to his brother overseas. he has just managed to to sit and read it, saying he felt that he was there, when reading the service. Also, stating he learnt so much more about his brother.. things he didn't know. Such a shame..
Again, my deep heartfelt thanks from myself and the family.
All of the family join me in thanking you for the wonderful memorial service you conducted last week in a tribute to John.
I have had many calls and cards from people who attended full of praise for your Eulogy and the tributes remembering his life. Thank you for introducing us to Dean, what a delightful man, so professional and with great compassion.
Thank you again for your friendship and the memorable service.
Sandy St Leger
Thank you for the lovely service you gave for Mum. Your wording brought the two families together perfectly. Everyone felt included, comfortable and impressed.
I would like to pass on my personal thanks for the comfort and support you gave me. The time to say the final goodbye seemed too quick for me and I struggled.
I will always remember your kindness.
Thank you sincerely for all your help and caring at the service for John.
You gave so much of your time … I know he would have felt honoured at such a beautiful service all for him, a true gentleman.
Dorothy & Leo