My life as a Celebrant...acknowledging Love, Life and Loss-the truly important occasions of life
As a professional celebrant officiating in wedding and funerals I understand the significance of acknowledging the important occasions of life.
It is the greatest of privileges to be asked to help a family say a final goodbye to a loved one. Giving them options as to how they do this is so important. Many are not aware, so go along with the flow.
You have options so explore these. Only by talking to independent stakeholders can you be assured of having your wishes fulfilled.
I work alongside many dedicated independent professionals which gives me confidence when delivering the service of your choice.
After fifteen years of helping couples “tie the knot” I realised very early into this profession that ceremony is not a one size fits all scenario, so being able to help couples choreograph their day whilst still fulfilling their legal obligations in the spirit of love has been such a privilege.
There are many favourite components that are involved in my role as a Celebrant. One being able to get to know couples over a coffee or vino (as conversations do seem to flow and personalities come to the foreground in such settings).
Of course all of this comes under the heading of research and helps when writing a ceremony, as I listen, watch and try to capture the whole person and the depth of this relationship. So from a chat (which I am very good at) a story of love, pain and the whole damn thing evolves.
Your love story is all those moments, big and small, over the span of your relationship that created the foundation of your love for each other.
It is said that a picture is worth a thousand words, but your specific thoughts about how you felt when you first met your partner is what made you fall in love and why you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her can’t be conveyed in a photograph.
These feelings can only be communicated in words.
A fun way to get outside of the daily minutia of wedding planning is to sit down together and recount your love story.
I am often asked by guests how long I have known the couple as the ceremony captured their values perfectly… which is the essence of the ceremony, that is does reflect you and your life together.
Many people put so much pressure on themselves when organising a wedding.
Sometimes things happen that are out of your control, the weather misbehaves and instead of a balmy 25 degree day with no wind you have not only wind and horizontal rain, but a tornado of sorts all at the same time.
OK, plans have to change, you may not have had the first dance under the stars sashaying on the sand but by the conclusion of the evening you will be married to the love of your life and that is what really matters! YES!
Finding a celebrant that you can relate to is crucial to your day. Over the planning process you form a relationship of trust, you can tell me anything, believe me nothing is out of bounds!
My advice would be to start this process as early as you can in the planning process... Celebrant’s book out quickly so this is a must. Especially if you have your heart set on a particular date, then you can concentrate on what is important to you both on your day.
What wedding theme floats your boat?
Romantic. Soft hues, delicate lighting, and plenty of floral typically make up a romantic wedding. ...
Alternative. More of an offbeat bride who's never been one to take the normal route? ...
Then there is …
Garden Party/Casual. ...
Boho…. so many choices, it is no wonder many opt for eloping.
There are those who dream of throwing a big blow-out wedding with tons of guests, the fairytale dress and fancy centrepieces.
Others have fantasies about eloping. One choice isn't inherently better than the other; it's an intensely personal decision that you must make together.
As funny as it sounds many couples are not happy being the centre of attention.The thought of public speaking really freaks them out.
This being the case I like to keep things to a minimum, this is your day… we do things your way, whatever that may be. My approach is to never make you do anything you are not totally relaxed with.
The last thing you want on your wedding day is to feel anxious about doing something that doesn’t come naturally to you.
One of my roles is to make your day as effortless (and stress less) so you can bask in the knowledge that you are finally hitched to the most important person in your life.
With age comes wisdom, life skills I have acquired in the course of my career pre-celebrancy have added to my rich tapestry of an interesting journey making me open and accommodating to your needs.
BUT … there is one no-go zone, no nude weddings! This you will understand once meeting.
I am very willing to travel to wherever you have chosen to "tie the knot"
Enjoy your planning